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It’s all about love love love love love…

11 Feb

This morning on my way to work I was listening to the radio and they were talking about asking these five questions each week in your marriage. I think that they can have an amazing impact on your relationship with your spouse. Here they are:

1. How did you feel loved this week?
2. What do you have coming up this week?
3. How would you feel most loved and encouraged this week?
4. How would you best feel pursued in intimacy this week?
5. How can I pray for you this week?

These five questions are very simple, but they can have a huge impact in the intimacy of your relationship with your spouse. Now, don’t simply go in and read them to your spouse each week as if they are something to be checked off of a list. These questions need to be worked into normal conversation intentionally. These questions should cause you to have REAL concern for your spouse spiritually, mentally, physically, and relationally.

I plan on using these (so get ready She-wood!) I know that there are times when I fail to guard my wife’s heart, and I repent for that. However, that doesn’t mean I cannot be intentional about guarding it in the future.

I challenge you to invest in your relationship with your spouse. Yes, it takes work, and it is not always fun. But it is SO worth it! Your marriage is not ultimately for you. Yes you benefit from it greatly, but ultimately your marriage is for the glory of God.


You’re the one that I want…

18 Jan

Let’s get one thing straight right off the bat, I have an awesome wife!  We just all have to go ahead and agree on that, cause it’s the truth.  That being said, I think I need to tell you a little about her.  She is, quite simply, amazing! She is an awesome friend, a great mother to our children, a throw down chef, and a good teacher.  She is truly my helpmate, and exhibits the characteristics of a Proverbs 31 woman.

My desire is that I can be the husband back to her that God has called me to be.  Paul lays it out for me in the letter to the Church at Ephesus when he writes, 

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
(Ephesians 5:25-33 ESV)

I want to love my wife sacrificially.  I want to put her before myself.  I want to encourage her and lift her up.  I want to help her to grow into the follower of Christ that God has called her to be.  However, the fact of the matter is that I can’t do those things for her.  But, Christ in me can!  Thank God for sending His Spirit to help me (and all Christians for that matter) to be the people that He created us to be.  I pray that through the power of the Holy Spirit I can be the husband that She-Wood needs.  She is a wonderful woman, and I love her madly.  I want to honor her as my wife and the mother of our children by being the type of husband that is described in Ephesians.

I’ve been waiting a long time for the moment to come…

11 Sep

Umm…yeah, so the last 6 days have been an absolute whirlwind to say the least!  This time last week She-wood and I were recovering from the end of the previous week when we had prayed really hard and felt God telling us to pass an opportunity for our adoption profile to be shown to a birthmother.  We were broken.  We were questioning God about the timing of this whole thing (adoption, that is).  We were wondering what God was trying to teach us through this two year long process.  We had come to the conclusion during the incidents of the previous week that we had to quit trying to force God’s hand into giving us a child.  Rather it was God who was the one in control, not us trying to help God understand what we needed.  (You know in writing that even now I realize how dumb that sounds, but walk with me for a minute as I let you inside our hearts for a minute.)

We had begun to become so impatient with this process.  We thought to ourselves, “God we have done everything that needs to be done.  What are You waiting on?”  How arrogant!  To think that we were waiting on God to get His act together and make this adoption happen.  I honestly believe that God has been waiting on us to get to the point spiritually where we were at a point that we are fully relying on Him and His provision.  For so long we have been hustling to do everything in our power to make this adoption move, but in actuality God has had a plan for us in place since before the foundations of the earth were laid and He is working out that plan.

Little did we know last Monday that our lives would be changed in less than a week.  We received a call Wednesday that there was a child for us.  A little boy who was, at that time, 6 days old, and that the at risk period to terminate maternal rights would be over at 5pm yesterday.  We were elated, scared, excited, and expectant!  We got to meet the little bugger on Friday.  It was surreal!  Holding this little boy in my arms that didn’t even weigh 6 pounds.  Trying my best to guard my heart from becoming too attached, knowing that there was the possibility that the birthmother could change her mind in the next three days.  But already, in my heart, falling in love with this perfect little guy.

We left the adoption agency office Friday afternoon, and I’m pretty sure that She-wood and I actually floated to the car.  Could this really be happening?  Were we really going to become a family of 5 in just three short days?  Would we be able to maintain our sanity for the weekend?  Would I have a stress ulcer when I woke up on Sunday from wondering about all of it?

Well, as of 5pm Monday September 10, 2012, we are now He-wood, She-wood, Wee-wood 1, Wee-wood 2, AND Wee-wood 3!!!!! God is so good!  After all of the paperwork, all of the classes, all of the doctors appointments, all of the fingerprints and background checks, and after all the waiting we were actually driving home with a little boy in our back seat.  And he is our son!

There have been times over the past 2 years that I have wondered if we had made the correct choice.   There were times when I had to question what God was doing.  There were times when I wondering if all of this was really worth it.  But this morning at about 5:15am as I sat there staring into the eyes of this perfect little boy and he smiled at me, any question of worth that I had was answered by God with a resounding, “YES, it was more than worth the past 2 years.  Trust me, I know what I’m doing.”

I now have a better understanding of Romans 8:28.  “God works everything for the good of those who are called by His name, according to His purposes.”  That in no way means that everything is always going to be fun.  The past 2 years of waiting have been very difficult at times.  But it does mean that God will work everything in the end to His glory, and that is the good that I seek. His glory.

It’s all about love love love love love…

14 Feb

Being that it is Valentine’s Day I can’t help but think of the many things that I love.

I love my Savior!  Jesus is amazing when you think about Him.  (Who am I kidding, He is amazing all the time!)  I am totally blown away when I consider the love that was poured out for me at the cross.  To see the intersection of God’s holy hatred for sin and His unfailing love for sinners is altogether captivating, terrifying, and uplifting at the same time.  I love that I can approach Him at anytime that I need Him.  I can approach Him even when I don’t have a request.  I can approach Him when I simply want to be near Him.  God is breathtaking in His scope and unbelievable in His immanence!  I love you Jesus.

I love my wife!  God has blessed me with such an amazing wife!  I love She-wood completely.  She is my helpmate, my best friend, my support, and my partner.  I cannot imagine life without her.  We have been through so much together in almost 12 years of dating (including almost 7 years of marriage).  She makes me a better man.  The way we are able to glorify God together with our relationship, the way we manage our family, and the ministry we do together is a blessing for me to experience.  God is so good to let me enjoy her, and I do truly enjoy my wife.  Everything about her gives me joy from the way she tucks her bangs behind her ear to watching her teach our children.  I love my wife.

I love my kids!  Wee-wood 1 and Wee-wood 2 are the craziest kids I have ever met, but they are a constant source of fun and love.  I never knew that having kids could be both one of the most frustrating and fulfilling things in my life.  Don’t get me wrong, I know that having children is a huge God-given responsibility.  I love that Wee-wood 1 looks to me as her buddy!  The amount of emotion that wells up in me just thinking about that is great.  She loves me, and I am so grateful for that.  The way that Wee-wood 2 loves to cuddle and snuggle with me makes my day!  She is one of the most affectionate people I have ever met.  I cannot help but think of the little boy that God has for us as we are in the process of adopting.  I don’t even  know the little boy yet, but I know I will love him.  I so look forward to meeting the little man that God has for us.  Oh God you know that desire of my heart to meet him soon. I love my kids.

I love my church!  God has led us through a crazy past year in our lives both vocationally and ministerially.  However, looking back on the past year, it is blatantly obvious that God was guiding ever step in His amazing sovereignty to get us to where we are today.  I love the friendships we have built here and the minister that is taking place.  I love the heart of the rest of the staff for a proper mix evangelism and social justice.  I love that the people here love us and support us in many different ways.  I love that God has led us here.  I love my church.

What do you love?  Please let us know how God has blessed you and what you love today.

Serve justice, love mercy, walk humbly with your God

16 Nov

She-wood and I went to see the movie Courageous last night, and can I just say, “Wow!” I know that we are a little late on seeing it, but better late than never, right? I was so moved by it that I had to blog about. I won’t give anything away if you haven’t seen it, but I would like to share how I plan to change a couple if things.

There is a point in the movie where one of the characters tells the main character that he thinks that he’s been a good enough father. The main character responds, “That’s the problem. I don’t want to be a good enough father. I want to be the father that God has called me to be!” When he said that line, I felt like someone had punched me in the chest. I couldn’t breathe. There are many times where I have only been a “good enough” father. I don’t want to be remembered as a father who just did enough to get by. I want to be remembered as a great father who loved his kids and their mother well. I want to be remembered as a father who led his kids to Jesus and led his family with godly principles. I want to be a father who shows his girls how a young man should treat her with respect and honor while they are dating. I want to be a father who calls out the man in my sons.

I know that the only way I can do this is with God’s power working in and through me. I will also need the help of my wonderful wife. I will also need other Christian fathers to partner alongside me to help keep me accountable. However, I believe that with God’s help and direction I can leave a legacy of Christian leadership for my children to pass on to their families as well.

I’m so glad that this movie was made to bring the issue of Christian fatherhood to the forefront.

An everlasting love…

14 Nov

I’m so thankful for my family. I love getting to spend time with them the way I do. God is so good to let me enjoy getting to raise two little files and a little boy soon. I know I have said it before, but I really do love my family. God has blessed me with such an amazing and love wife to support and encourage me. I truly believe that He led me to a Proverbs 31 woman. I am blessed beyond measure. The love I have for her is truly an everlasting love. I guess I just needed to say that today.

What are you thankful for?

I will never be the same again…

28 Jun

This time four years ago my life was about to very rapidly change.  It was a change that I new was coming, but I had not yet sensed the gravity of the change.  Today is Wee-Wood 1’s birthday, and I cannot believe that she is actually four years old.  So much has changed in the past four years for us as a family.  We bought our first house, we have gotten two new to us cars, we have had a second child, we have started to adopt a third child, we each, She-Wood and I, gone through job transitions, and other various things.  However, one thing has remained exactly the same.  I love this little girl within everything that is in me.

I’l never forget the first time that I saw her.  As she was born the umbilical cord was around her neck, so she was a little blue as she came out.  The nurses and doctors were working like crazy on her and on She-Wood.  It was an incredibly hectic several moments.  There was a point where I thought for a few seconds that I might lose both She-Wood and Wee-Wood 1.  Wee-Wood had fluid on her lungs and she was having trouble breathing, and She-Wood hemorrhaged and was losing a lot of blood.  It was a hard situation for a 23 year old guy to handle, but by the grace of God I was able to make it through.  The funny thing was that during the entire hour long craziness the only thing that kept coming into my head was the Steven Curtis Chapman song, “This Is A Moment Made for Worshiping,” and truly it was.  The first time I got to hold her I was changed forever.  I instantly knew that I would do absolutely anything for this beautiful, helpless little girl.  It was during our first few days at home that the words of God came to realization in my heart from Deuteronomy 6.  God states, “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.  You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise” (Deut. 6:6-7).  God wants us to constantly have Him and His commandments on our minds and hearts.  It was at that point, as I held my newborn child, that I knew what I had to do as a spiritual leader of my children.

I love what one commentator wrote regarding this passage.  He says, “The image is that of the engraver of a monument who takes hammer and chisel in hand and with painstaking care etches a text into the face of a solid slab of granite.  The sheer labor of such a task is daunting indeed, but once done the message is there to stay.”  Therefore, as a father I am resigned to daily take up my hammer and chisel and etch the commands of God and love for Him onto the hearts and minds of my children.  I love them too much not to.

I am sure that today will be awesome as we celebrate Wee-Wood 1’s birthday, and I cannot wait to watch her grow and develop into a godly young woman.  I love you sweetie and happy birthday!