Tag Archives: marriage

It’s all about love love love love love…

11 Feb

This morning on my way to work I was listening to the radio and they were talking about asking these five questions each week in your marriage. I think that they can have an amazing impact on your relationship with your spouse. Here they are:

1. How did you feel loved this week?
2. What do you have coming up this week?
3. How would you feel most loved and encouraged this week?
4. How would you best feel pursued in intimacy this week?
5. How can I pray for you this week?

These five questions are very simple, but they can have a huge impact in the intimacy of your relationship with your spouse. Now, don’t simply go in and read them to your spouse each week as if they are something to be checked off of a list. These questions need to be worked into normal conversation intentionally. These questions should cause you to have REAL concern for your spouse spiritually, mentally, physically, and relationally.

I plan on using these (so get ready She-wood!) I know that there are times when I fail to guard my wife’s heart, and I repent for that. However, that doesn’t mean I cannot be intentional about guarding it in the future.

I challenge you to invest in your relationship with your spouse. Yes, it takes work, and it is not always fun. But it is SO worth it! Your marriage is not ultimately for you. Yes you benefit from it greatly, but ultimately your marriage is for the glory of God.

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You’re the one that I want…

18 Jan

Let’s get one thing straight right off the bat, I have an awesome wife!  We just all have to go ahead and agree on that, cause it’s the truth.  That being said, I think I need to tell you a little about her.  She is, quite simply, amazing! She is an awesome friend, a great mother to our children, a throw down chef, and a good teacher.  She is truly my helpmate, and exhibits the characteristics of a Proverbs 31 woman.

My desire is that I can be the husband back to her that God has called me to be.  Paul lays it out for me in the letter to the Church at Ephesus when he writes, 

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
(Ephesians 5:25-33 ESV)

I want to love my wife sacrificially.  I want to put her before myself.  I want to encourage her and lift her up.  I want to help her to grow into the follower of Christ that God has called her to be.  However, the fact of the matter is that I can’t do those things for her.  But, Christ in me can!  Thank God for sending His Spirit to help me (and all Christians for that matter) to be the people that He created us to be.  I pray that through the power of the Holy Spirit I can be the husband that She-Wood needs.  She is a wonderful woman, and I love her madly.  I want to honor her as my wife and the mother of our children by being the type of husband that is described in Ephesians.

It’s all about love love love love love…

14 Feb

Being that it is Valentine’s Day I can’t help but think of the many things that I love.

I love my Savior!  Jesus is amazing when you think about Him.  (Who am I kidding, He is amazing all the time!)  I am totally blown away when I consider the love that was poured out for me at the cross.  To see the intersection of God’s holy hatred for sin and His unfailing love for sinners is altogether captivating, terrifying, and uplifting at the same time.  I love that I can approach Him at anytime that I need Him.  I can approach Him even when I don’t have a request.  I can approach Him when I simply want to be near Him.  God is breathtaking in His scope and unbelievable in His immanence!  I love you Jesus.

I love my wife!  God has blessed me with such an amazing wife!  I love She-wood completely.  She is my helpmate, my best friend, my support, and my partner.  I cannot imagine life without her.  We have been through so much together in almost 12 years of dating (including almost 7 years of marriage).  She makes me a better man.  The way we are able to glorify God together with our relationship, the way we manage our family, and the ministry we do together is a blessing for me to experience.  God is so good to let me enjoy her, and I do truly enjoy my wife.  Everything about her gives me joy from the way she tucks her bangs behind her ear to watching her teach our children.  I love my wife.

I love my kids!  Wee-wood 1 and Wee-wood 2 are the craziest kids I have ever met, but they are a constant source of fun and love.  I never knew that having kids could be both one of the most frustrating and fulfilling things in my life.  Don’t get me wrong, I know that having children is a huge God-given responsibility.  I love that Wee-wood 1 looks to me as her buddy!  The amount of emotion that wells up in me just thinking about that is great.  She loves me, and I am so grateful for that.  The way that Wee-wood 2 loves to cuddle and snuggle with me makes my day!  She is one of the most affectionate people I have ever met.  I cannot help but think of the little boy that God has for us as we are in the process of adopting.  I don’t even  know the little boy yet, but I know I will love him.  I so look forward to meeting the little man that God has for us.  Oh God you know that desire of my heart to meet him soon. I love my kids.

I love my church!  God has led us through a crazy past year in our lives both vocationally and ministerially.  However, looking back on the past year, it is blatantly obvious that God was guiding ever step in His amazing sovereignty to get us to where we are today.  I love the friendships we have built here and the minister that is taking place.  I love the heart of the rest of the staff for a proper mix evangelism and social justice.  I love that the people here love us and support us in many different ways.  I love that God has led us here.  I love my church.

What do you love?  Please let us know how God has blessed you and what you love today.

Serve justice, love mercy, walk humbly with your God

16 Nov

She-wood and I went to see the movie Courageous last night, and can I just say, “Wow!” I know that we are a little late on seeing it, but better late than never, right? I was so moved by it that I had to blog about. I won’t give anything away if you haven’t seen it, but I would like to share how I plan to change a couple if things.

There is a point in the movie where one of the characters tells the main character that he thinks that he’s been a good enough father. The main character responds, “That’s the problem. I don’t want to be a good enough father. I want to be the father that God has called me to be!” When he said that line, I felt like someone had punched me in the chest. I couldn’t breathe. There are many times where I have only been a “good enough” father. I don’t want to be remembered as a father who just did enough to get by. I want to be remembered as a great father who loved his kids and their mother well. I want to be remembered as a father who led his kids to Jesus and led his family with godly principles. I want to be a father who shows his girls how a young man should treat her with respect and honor while they are dating. I want to be a father who calls out the man in my sons.

I know that the only way I can do this is with God’s power working in and through me. I will also need the help of my wonderful wife. I will also need other Christian fathers to partner alongside me to help keep me accountable. However, I believe that with God’s help and direction I can leave a legacy of Christian leadership for my children to pass on to their families as well.

I’m so glad that this movie was made to bring the issue of Christian fatherhood to the forefront.